Suffering
Before84.3
After3.8
A sixteen-week path to living well
I’m dying.
You’re dying too.
Learn to live a life
you’ll love to death.
We all have the same prognosis. None of us knows how long we get, and life is too precious to spend it feeling like nothing you do is enough. That leaves one question: How do you want to live?
The Path to Living Well is a practical, sixteen-week system designed to help you find relief from self-doubt, procrastination, and overthinking within your first two-hour session.
Created by Adam Holman, Licensed Mental Health Therapist with 10+ years of experience. Based in Chiang Mai, Thailand. Services available online worldwide.
01 If this sounds familiar
No matter how
hard you try,
it never feels
like enough.
You’re self-aware. You can usually explain why you’re overthinking, putting things off, or doubting yourself. You may even notice the pattern while it’s happening and feel so frustrated that you still can’t seem to change it.
You’ve tried therapy. Waking up earlier. Affirmations. The book. The journal. Meditation. The app. You make a plan to finally fix everything, and you mean it.
Then you either fall short, or do everything right just to discover that you’re putting in more effort without feeling any better about your life.
You end up wondering if you’re lazy, not smart enough, or if there’s just something fundamentally wrong with you.
I’ve been there. It’s painful, and this Path is made to help you finally find relief. What keeps most people stuck isn’t a lack of awareness. It’s that we haven’t been taught how to understand what keeps the pattern going, or what to do about it. These patterns have reasons. We give you the tools to find them and finally make changes that stick.
This may fit if…
- You want an active process with practical tools.
- You’re willing to practice between sessions.
- You want to graduate able to guide yourself—not depend on me forever. My wallet will cope.
Probably not right now if…
- You need diagnosis, clinical treatment, or crisis care.
- You want mainly passive listening or open-ended weekly support.
- Life is too full to make room for effort between sessions.
02 What we actually do
The Path to
Living Well.
We start by learning Guided Self-Mentorship. It’s a structured and comprehensive set of tools to understand your challenges, know what truly matters to you, and find actionable steps to apply what you’ve learned in your life.
I guide you through it first, finding relief from one of your greatest challenges in the first session. Then you practice it in your actual life until you can do it without me, recognizing that you have the skills to mentor yourself through future challenges.
Guided Self-Mentorship stays with you throughout the Path, but it isn’t the whole Path. Some sessions return to it. Others focus on additional tools chosen around your assessment, your life, and what will actually help.
What we’re working toward
You’ll know what to do
when life gets hard.
You will understand why you get stuck and know what to do when it happens. You will have clarity over what you want, and will be able to do it without being overrun by shame and panic.
You’ll still run into challenges. You’ll also know how to help yourself through them, make room for the people and things you love, and get back to enjoying your life.
It starts with relief. It ends with you knowing that you can not only find relief, but joy.
Eight sessions. Sixteen weeks.
Graduate.
The work is built around the specifics of your life. We don’t spend three appointments collecting your history before doing anything useful.
- 01 / UnderstandYour assessment.
Before we meet, I learn what’s making life hard, what’s already working, and what you need from the Path.
- 02 / Find reliefYour first two hours.
We get to the root, learn Guided Self-Mentorship, and use it on your greatest challenge so you can leave your first session with relief and some practical tools to navigate your life.
- 03 / PracticeYour actual life.
Seven one-hour sessions as you use Guided Self-Mentorship and other tools chosen for your needs on hard days, habits, choices, and relationships.
- 04 / GraduateKeep going without me.
Leave knowing what matters, how to act on it, and how to guide yourself when life changes again.
We meet weekly for the first month, every other week for the next, then monthly for two months. The spaces grow on purpose. That’s where you prove the skills work without me in the room.
03 Proof, measured
The proof is
in the data.
I measure every session.
I used to finish sessions feeling like they’d gone well, without knowing whether the person on the other end had actually benefited. That wasn’t good enough.
Now you rate your suffering and joy before and after we meet. If things aren’t improving, I’m accountable for moving us in the right direction. The feedback helps us get there.
Joy
Before51.1
After92.6
Average self-ratings out of 100, before and after the first Guided Self-Mentorship session, from 40 people who completed the service. These show immediate change, not guaranteed or long-term results.
5.0Public Google reviewsA public Google review
“Adam is fantastic and I can't recommend him enough. His approach to examining and reflecting on our emotions and thoughts is so healing. I gained more in 3 hours with him than I did in months of therapy with multiple other people. Thank you!!!”
04 Ways to work together
Two Possible
Paths
Both options begin by teaching you Guided Self-Mentorship. The standalone stays focused on one part of your life. The Path uses it throughout, alongside other tools chosen for what you need.
The full program · 16 weeks
The Path to
Living Well
For those who want to deeply understand themselves and transform the way they live.
$3,000Payment plans available, spread across 4 months.
- An individualized assessment and eight private sessions: two hours to begin, then seven one-hour sessions.
- A first session designed to uncover the root and help you begin finding relief.
- Guided Self-Mentorship in the first session, plus the 7-Day Path workbook.
- Tools and practice tailored to your challenges, habits, and relationships.
- Progress measurement, email and text support throughout.
The method on its own · 4 weeks
Guided
Self-Mentorship
For those whose lives are broadly working, but who feel stuck or challenged in specific areas.
$1,000Payment plans available, spread across 4 months.
- An individualized assessment of the specific problem you want to change.
- A two-hour first session to get to the root, learn the method, and begin finding relief.
- The 7-Day Path workbook to guide your practice.
- Two one-hour follow-ups: after a week and at the one-month mark.
- Progress measurement and email support for all four weeks.
Not sure which fits?
Use the same application. We’ll talk it through before you decide. You can also start with Self-Mentorship and continue into the full Path.
If you do the work and it doesn’t help, I give the money back.
Attend the sessions, complete the between-session work and pre/post surveys, and if you’re not seeing change or you’re otherwise dissatisfied, you’ll receive a full refund.
05 About a dying man
My greatest qualification is that
I’ve been where you are.
This is the part where I’m supposed to list my credentials. They’re below. The more useful truth is that I know how it feels to work hard and still believe you are the problem.
For the first twenty-five years of my life, I was anxious and depressed. I didn’t want to live. I spent three years studying computer science without passing a single semester and, at my lowest, hid in video games for sixteen hours a day. Games were the one place I knew what to do and got to feel successful.
Then I got kicked out of university, which was humiliating and, inconveniently, the beginning of my life. I stopped asking what was wrong with me and started asking why my struggles made sense. I began to understand myself, made changes with what I learned, and felt relief for the first time.
Life is a joy now. Slow mornings with coffee and a cat. Long hikes. Learning things for no reason. Food that’s irresponsibly spicy.
I trained as a therapist and have spent the past decade helping other people go from feeling stuck in suffering to living lives they love. Watching that happen has given me a borderline ridiculous, possibly delusional belief that anyone can recover. Ten years in, nothing has talked me out of it. I’m a little addicted to watching it happen, honestly.
My own life taught me half of this. The people I’ve sat with taught me the rest. That’s what qualifies me most, not the letters below.
Licensed therapist and LCSW, 10+ years of experience. Master’s in Social Work, University of Wisconsin–Madison.
Frequently asked questions
Before
you decide.
What is the Path to Living Well, and how is it different from therapy?
The Path is a sixteen-week personal guidance program built to end. We begin with an individualized assessment, learn Guided Self-Mentorship in your first session, and add other tools based on what you need. Psychotherapy can include diagnosis and clinical treatment; the Path does neither. It is practical work for people who want to understand themselves, change patterns that keep repeating, and learn to keep themselves well.
Which option is right for me?
The Path to Living Well is for people who want to understand themselves deeply and change the way they live across sixteen weeks. Guided Self-Mentorship on its own is a four-week option for people whose lives are broadly working but who feel stuck in one specific area. You don’t have to diagnose yourself correctly before applying. We’ll work it out together.
Why should I believe this will help?
I measure every session because feeling confident about my work is not the same as knowing it helped you. Among forty people who completed Guided Self-Mentorship, average self-ratings moved from 84.3 to 3.8 for suffering and from 51.1 to 92.6 for joy after the first session. Those are self-reported results, not a guarantee. If your numbers aren’t moving, I adjust. You can see the measurements, client stories, and public reviews above.
Can the Path help with anxiety, depression, trauma, or other specific challenges?
The tools can help you understand and respond differently to overthinking, avoidance, shame, self-doubt, painful emotions, relationship patterns, and habits. The Path does not diagnose or treat anxiety, depression, trauma, or any other mental illness. Having a diagnosis does not automatically rule you out, but if clinical treatment is what you need, this is not a substitute for it.
Are you saying I’ll feel good permanently?
No. Nobody feels good permanently, and trying to can become its own exhausting project. The goal is to understand what difficult feelings are telling you, know how to respond, and trust that you can find your way back to relief and joy.
How much time will this take each week?
The Path includes eight sessions over sixteen weeks. The first is two hours and the remaining seven are one hour. Plan for roughly 30–45 minutes of practice most days. Some of that is using a tool; some is doing something differently in your ordinary life. It is not busywork, but it is part of how things change.
What if it doesn’t work?
If you attend your sessions, complete the between-session work and pre/post surveys, and you aren’t seeing change or are otherwise dissatisfied, I give you a full refund. The point is for the work to help, not for you to become $3,000 poorer with excellent attendance.
Is this confidential?
Yes. I treat what you share in your assessment, sessions, messages, and surveys as confidential. The details and limits are explained in the informed consent you review before we begin, so you know exactly what applies rather than being asked to assume.
Is this available online?
Yes. I’m based in Chiang Mai, Thailand, and offer personal guidance online worldwide. We’ll find session times that work for both of us.
I’m looking for a therapist in Chiang Mai. Is that you?
I’m a licensed therapist with over ten years of experience, based in Chiang Mai. I offer support using the skills I learned as a therapist, but I now operate as a guide instead. I don’t diagnose, treat illness, or take insurance. We focus on understanding your challenges in order to find wellness.
What happens after I apply?
I read your application myself. Then we talk about what you’re looking for, whether this is a good fit, and which option makes sense. Applying doesn’t commit you to paying or starting.
Four places are currently open.
Let’s make sure
this is a good fit.
Sixteen weeks is a real piece of your life, and a real piece of mine. The application exists to make sure we both spend it well.
You apply. I read it myself and tell you yes, no, or not now. If it’s yes, you’ll get an email with your place, room to ask me anything, and a link to schedule.
Apply for the Path
Questions first? a.dying.mans.inbox@gmail.com. I answer these myself.